Deal Breakers

Fun times... Plinky really does get harder with time - I stop having things to say... I have chosen this topic - not because I am particularly knowledgeable but because I am refusing to answer any of the Halloween topics of the last couple of days... I have done Halloween twice and twice only... when I lived in the US... and I disagree with the american holiday being celebrated by Australians...



I managed to say all that without mentioning the topic that I had chosen. My old high school english teacher would fail me for such a terrible introductory paragraph. At any rate this topic is top 5 dating deal breakers .



I am not a hundred percent what dating deal breakers is refering to... The things that have you saying no to the first date... or the things that once you have found out about it its just a no go from there? I suppose it is a combination of the two isn't it.



Now I'm sure I have mentioned this before... but my dating experience is very, very limited. I don't know if its cuz I'm picky... or just plain unattractive :P. Its not either of them... Dating just isn't something that has featured high on my priorities list - though it creeps ever higher these days.



Well here is my list of deal breakers - I will of course start with the easy ones :) and go from there

In a relationship
Yeah well - this isn't what I'd call a particular unique kind of deal breaker. Nobody wants a guy willing to string his girls along.... Well I don't know maybe there is some out there - particularly of my own age group - not looking for something serious or exclusive

Not A Christian
Here may be the chief cause of my dating opportunities being slim on the ground. I don't mind but this is one of the biggest things for me - I don't date non-christian guys... We just don't have the same outlook on life. So although I have often met attractive (and I am refering to beyond looks attractive) non-christian guys I couldn't ever consider dating them.

Bad Mouth
I couldn't think of a good description of this one - its funny that in shortening it to 'bad mouth' it now covers both the personality and the physical dislikes. Yes mouths bother me - i either like a mouth or i don't... irritating teeth or lips... I dislike having to watch it when I'm talking to it let alone ever contemplating kissing it...

But that is petty - what I was actually referring to here is a guy who bad mouths girls... Yes I know that plenty of them do it... but describing other girls as sluts (with more derogatory language than that) around me... I don't think talking like that is helpful or acceptable - this isn't to say I mind swearing - i do afterall swear a little too fluently myself - but swearing AT a person is a little bit different

Height
Yeah well every girl has to have a petty one doesn't she? It works to my advantage that this isn't entirely uncommon. Most women prefer a guy who is taller than she is and a lot of guys before the girl shorter. Of course at 5'10" I knock out a few more people than my friends at 5'4" but I am not an overly tall woman by most standards.

Social Butterflies
This is more than just being turned off by the person who is willing to be social with anybody and everybody in a room of people... I have met a guy or two who do that that I would happily date... because it all comes down to how I feel when they do it. I am a naturally reclusive person however I am much more outgoing that I appear in the loud crowds. I need people but I struggle to engage with the people.



Social butterflies make me feel like I can't know them because they are all show. Everybody is their best friend but nobody can ever know anything. Perhaps a better heading for this would be genuine. If I can't feel like they are sharing themself with me I can't share myself with them - and then what would a dating relationship achieve?



At the other end of this I admit to generally being attracted to introverts. I always have been - although it leads to complications with never knowing precisely what they think... I can't even describe exactly what it is but probably because I am quite introverted I get to be the extrovert in the situation...