Deal Breakers

Fun times... Plinky really does get harder with time - I stop having things to say... I have chosen this topic - not because I am particularly knowledgeable but because I am refusing to answer any of the Halloween topics of the last couple of days... I have done Halloween twice and twice only... when I lived in the US... and I disagree with the american holiday being celebrated by Australians...



I managed to say all that without mentioning the topic that I had chosen. My old high school english teacher would fail me for such a terrible introductory paragraph. At any rate this topic is top 5 dating deal breakers .



I am not a hundred percent what dating deal breakers is refering to... The things that have you saying no to the first date... or the things that once you have found out about it its just a no go from there? I suppose it is a combination of the two isn't it.



Now I'm sure I have mentioned this before... but my dating experience is very, very limited. I don't know if its cuz I'm picky... or just plain unattractive :P. Its not either of them... Dating just isn't something that has featured high on my priorities list - though it creeps ever higher these days.



Well here is my list of deal breakers - I will of course start with the easy ones :) and go from there

In a relationship
Yeah well - this isn't what I'd call a particular unique kind of deal breaker. Nobody wants a guy willing to string his girls along.... Well I don't know maybe there is some out there - particularly of my own age group - not looking for something serious or exclusive

Not A Christian
Here may be the chief cause of my dating opportunities being slim on the ground. I don't mind but this is one of the biggest things for me - I don't date non-christian guys... We just don't have the same outlook on life. So although I have often met attractive (and I am refering to beyond looks attractive) non-christian guys I couldn't ever consider dating them.

Bad Mouth
I couldn't think of a good description of this one - its funny that in shortening it to 'bad mouth' it now covers both the personality and the physical dislikes. Yes mouths bother me - i either like a mouth or i don't... irritating teeth or lips... I dislike having to watch it when I'm talking to it let alone ever contemplating kissing it...

But that is petty - what I was actually referring to here is a guy who bad mouths girls... Yes I know that plenty of them do it... but describing other girls as sluts (with more derogatory language than that) around me... I don't think talking like that is helpful or acceptable - this isn't to say I mind swearing - i do afterall swear a little too fluently myself - but swearing AT a person is a little bit different

Height
Yeah well every girl has to have a petty one doesn't she? It works to my advantage that this isn't entirely uncommon. Most women prefer a guy who is taller than she is and a lot of guys before the girl shorter. Of course at 5'10" I knock out a few more people than my friends at 5'4" but I am not an overly tall woman by most standards.

Social Butterflies
This is more than just being turned off by the person who is willing to be social with anybody and everybody in a room of people... I have met a guy or two who do that that I would happily date... because it all comes down to how I feel when they do it. I am a naturally reclusive person however I am much more outgoing that I appear in the loud crowds. I need people but I struggle to engage with the people.



Social butterflies make me feel like I can't know them because they are all show. Everybody is their best friend but nobody can ever know anything. Perhaps a better heading for this would be genuine. If I can't feel like they are sharing themself with me I can't share myself with them - and then what would a dating relationship achieve?



At the other end of this I admit to generally being attracted to introverts. I always have been - although it leads to complications with never knowing precisely what they think... I can't even describe exactly what it is but probably because I am quite introverted I get to be the extrovert in the situation...

I'm Too Slack to be Superstitious

Black Cat

Yes I know its a picture of a black cat... But before you get all excited with the 'I totally know your superstition' look on your face I am going to state outright that I am not superstitious... I am a lover of the coincidence and entertained by the extreme but I am not a believer.



Before I actually get entirely off topic I think it is probably important that I define for myself exactly what superstitious is... I mean yes I know the word and can use it in a sentence but honestly because I clump it all together in my mind is superstitious the same as believing in conspiracy theory? Well according to the all knowing dictionary.com superstious belief is - a belief or notion, not based on reason or knowledge, in or of the ominous significance of a particular thing, circumstance, occurrence, proceeding, or the like... I figure that means the both fit...



Which is good because conspiracy theory is at least as much fun as old wife tale superstition. However my answer is still no... I can't say I follow any particularly dominant conspiracy theories - I am perfectly willing to believe man has been on the moon and Elvis is in fact dead...



As for other superstitions... basically they all take entirely too much effort for me... I mean I don't have lucky underwear or a lucky number? hows that for having to remember it every time you want to use it... I have standardised my Keno numbers but it doesn't really count - it streamlines the process that way and if they were to win while I wasn't betting on them I'd want to kick myself...



I wouldn't want to walk through life like I was walking on a bed of nails... I have enough issues with the dark, and groups of people, and telephones without needed to add a personification of the 'unknown' in the form of bad luck or good luck. (Yes I am one of the most on-edge people I have ever met).



But I do love superstition in the way many people do... It is HILARIOUS when it just WORKS! You know that that ladder had nothing to do with their failure, that knocking wood and jinx won't change anything and stepping on a crack will lead to no backs being broken... Its still to talk about if the coincidence does happen... That is my way of being superstitious - it makes a great story but it is far too hassling to try and be 'superstitious' about something - or anything...

The Neighbour I Am

Ah. For the first time in two weeks I actually can summon the enthusiasm to compose a plinky post. This (I swear) has nothing to do with the fact that I have a computer science assignment which I should be doing at this moment. - As a completely random side note I am currently using my Opensuse USB from my assignment (at least I got that far) and my Firefox on here is defaulted to use the Italian dictionary... Makes spell check rather ineffective I'll have to change that.



Anyway if I am going to procrastinate in this manner I should at least get back on topic. That being Am I a good neighbour? and of course WHY?



I am an alright neighbour. Actually by some standards I suppose I could almost be considered a great neighbour. When I think of many of the traditional complaints of university residents - well I don't fit into most of those categories.



I don't have a penchant for heavy metal - or any music at ridiculous volumes, I am not an excessive gamer, I am not nocturnal and am personally a stickler for the 'silent hours' (2200-0600) (0900 on weekends). I don't play musical instruments in my bedroom. As an engineering student I study, or at the very least pro-actively procrastinating much of the time. I don't host parties seeing how many people I could fit into this single room. Perhaps importantly I don't have, nor have any desire to have, a frat buddy (boyfriend) with whom I have noisy sex at all hours of the day and night.



At the same time, it really depends what kind of neighbour you are looking for. I am a relatively passive, keep to myself type but I am known to door knock my neighbours (generally only well into the 'silent hours') for being loud in their own rooms. I am sorry but I can only listen to zelda theme music through the wall while trying to sleep for so long before I go completely insane.

Hallway

Basically everybody is looking for neighbours in a slightly different way. It depends on where you are in your life. I am looking for something different in my uni res than I will in neighbours when I am married with a family. But I expect that so would my neighbours.



I suppose most people are looking to have neighbours that fall into one of two categories.



The non-existent. Whether you've been lucky enough to score a big lot or a hallway with a few empty rooms few people complain about the neighbours who aren't there. This also includes neighbours that do exist but are never home and even when they are so insignificant that can pretty well be ignored (this is perhaps the category I fit into best).



OR. The Convenience Friends. These are the people you have lots in common with. These are the true neighbours. The ones you get to know and get to love. The ones you really could go over to and ask for a cup of sugar while you are baking. To use a more relevant analogy for myself the ones you could ask about a question you don't understand or query about tomorrow's schedule.



Most people quietly hope for the convenience friend but are willing to settle for the non-existent. Not that that's a sure fast rule, I mean I know plenty of people who do it completely the other way and to some extent stage of life effects what kind of neighbour you are looking for. Families benefit from convenience while many workaholics would prefer no neighbours - not that they would know being 'non-existent' themselves.



Around here (the res) it is important to have convenience friends. Because friends of convenience become the closest friends you have. It gets less important year after year, now we all have established friend circles. But year one, day one, your neighbours are often the ones who will define your university experience, affect the rest of your life.



I, to this point, have been lucky in not having bad neighbours. Well not counting one of the ones from last year (thankfully she had a boyfriend so was sometimes non-existent) who was quite possibly bi-polar. I guess all I can hope is that that remains the same for next year (my last year at the res). And after that... who knows? I guess work will make me non-existent for several years after that so it really isn't important for me.



Neighbours. You can either live with them or live without them, but some, some you will wish didn't live at all...